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8Lee's avatar
May 18Edited

it once felt improbable, if not impossible, that i'd find the love of my life after a 20 year marriage then divorce. i had practically given up.

... then she showed up in my driveway. literally. out of the blue, 3.5 years ago. i'm proposing to her tonight. no AI involved.

***update: she said "YES"! ... ... ... ... improbability up, up up!

Prince's avatar

I hope she doesn't see this, and thus ruin the surprise :)

8Lee's avatar

if she did then that would be even more improbable and much closer to the line of impossible... she's so techno-illiterate and it's one of the reasons i love her! she and i live in two very different digital worlds.

-`ღ´-

Prince's avatar

U mean tech-illiterate... As a raver, I think ppl would be happier not being 'techno'-illiterate 😜

Jokes aside, wish u the best ✌️

8Lee's avatar

lol you're right. she does love music. and... she said yes!

Graham's avatar

Congratulations!!!

Sunil Malhotra's avatar

This is the best and most sound advice, and so unlikely to be taken seriously since modern man prefers comfort, predictability and certainty over anything else.

Scott Wolfson's avatar

Kevin…I don't even know where to start with this one. Business Insider published a piece about the AI simulation platform my co-founder Kes Sampanthar & I are building with KPMG the same day you published this mind-blowing essay. Our whole company, Centaurian AI, exists because we believe the predictable stuff is what AI eats first… and the improbable stuff is what makes humans irreplaceable. We call it becoming un-BOT-able.

We've been chasing that idea for 16 years without having the physics for it. You just handed us the physics. Exotropy. The card tower. "Improbable systems building improbable arrangements." I read that and my whole body went HELL YEAH! I've never had a piece of writing validate & reframe what we're doing at the same time. This one's going in the permanent collection. Thank you for writing it on the exact day I needed to read it.

Marty Clemons's avatar

No one can compete with your Authentic Self. Few know or are willing to show up as the Authentic Self in all life contexts for fear of being kicked out of the tribe. May all Beings be free to be their Authentic Selves and embody as much of their full potential as possible.

Christine Ahh's avatar

Truth. And yet in my experience, nobody much cares about stuff made by our Authentic self. Unless it pulls certain group mind levers, too. eg extreme novelty, attractiveness, cuteness, etc etc etc

Marty Clemons's avatar

Your Authentic Self cares. It is your Soul’s vehicle in this lifetime. Its goal is to express. How others react to it is their business.

Christine Ahh's avatar

Truth! My soul doesn’t care if I get a book deal lol 😜

Demonkidz Dollworks's avatar

I’ve recently had to retire from my career of 30 years, due to a hospital stay which I then became unable to work due to health. I’m currently in the middle of disability application, with no funds available (the life of a veterinary business is hard and doesn’t pay well, but we love it). It’s a hardship financially, and scary. On the other side of the coin, I’ve found a new love of life, being able to drop “vet biz” to now spend my time honoring my home, health and craftsmanship of what I’ve always loved to do in what little free time I had working ungodly amounts of hours every week.

Your words resonate so well, on how we can break through to another life cycle. Thank you for this post!!

-Mare

Graham's avatar

In relation to retirement my wife and I both took an online course on transitions with the Modern Elder Academy. There is a free download with gives some of their concepts at

https://www.meawisdom.com/ebook/the-anatomy-of-a-transition/

All the best with your next chapter of life!

Demonkidz Dollworks's avatar

Thank you, Graham, I will be checking that out

Will Milne's avatar

Your notion of uniqueness as the ultimate quality sounds very western. Perhaps an eastern approach would be uniqueness can attain oneness with all other uniqueness and be at the highest order of extropy. Or maybe not, maybe entropy would be the highest state. It sounds more relaxing, nowhere else to go nothing more to do

Christine Ahh's avatar

Yes. Also very competitive, survival of fittest mindset

Gayathri Menon's avatar

Lovely advice! I might have been unconsciously following it, I think (quits high status jobs, quits high paying jobs, refuses to take on long term work, takes completely unnecessary courses, randomly moves countries in total terror, plays the guitar badly). Or it could just be a succession of mid-life crises 🤷‍♀️🫣 either way, it’s fun. ☺️

Duane Swierczynski's avatar

Thank you for this, Kevin. I read your post first thing this morning, and it's been picking at my brain all day (in the best kind of way). It might be the kick in the arse I needed.

Nick Salvatore's avatar

Brilliant essay. Even without regard for the (incredible) universe / cosmos, I find the infinite uniqueness of individual human beings to be extremely exciting. Next time you speak with a stranger or think of a loved one, consider the depths of this other human that remain unexplored and frankly unmatched by any other human to have ever lived.

On top of this the improbability of our combined unique traits creates for even more possibilities.

Gain more skills -> produce more unique combinations of skills aka emergent capabilities.

Shawn बलि K's avatar

i mean, i agree, but what about the fact that world is owned and controlled by normies who actively don't like or don't understand improbably people

Tara's avatar

This is such a fun notion

Divyanaras's avatar

life lessons explained with cosmic physics and evolution is the best of it's kind

Tsung Xu's avatar

Kevin, this is the best first sentence I can recall reading in a blog post.

Gary S.'s avatar

I am increasingly inclined to agree that we have free will, but even so, how much room do you think we have to become something different than our dna might demand?

Musa's avatar

I really enjoyed this piece.